4 Tips for Loving Your Wife Without Involving Your Emotions In 2024

 Most of what you think about love is a lie. When you think of love, you likely think about romantic dinners or that warm feeling that comes over you when you used to think about her or sex. While all of that can be an important part of an intimate relationship, none of it is the stuff that builds intimacy, trust, friendship, or security. None of it is love.

Our movies, books, and songs have lied to us by teaching us that love is primarily a feeling or an experience. But love, as unsexy as it sounds, is not a feeling—it’s a choice. And it’s one you must make, not just daily, but moment by moment. Here are 4 unsexy but incredibly important ways to love your wife that have nothing to do with feelings.

1. Be patient.

We all make mistakes, and the world is plenty uncaring and unflinching. Choosing to be patient when she makes a mistake or isn’t moving at the pace, you’d like is one of the most powerful   ways to love your wife. It shows that you value her more than perfection or schedule.

2. Be kind.

It’s easy to take your wife for granted. It takes a willingness to think before you speak and consider the other person’s needs more than your own. It’s choosing to do what benefits her, even if it costs you something. Kindness takes intention. Love is kind.

3. Root for her.

As a husband, you are your wife’s most important cheerleader. There is plenty in life that will intimidate her and tell her she can’t or shouldn’t do what’s on her heart to do. That’s your job. Your job is not primarily to be the pragmatist or the realist. She needs you to be for her. Cheer hard.

4. Serve her.

Yes, breakfast in bed is nice, but serving your wife goes beyond gestures. Serving your wife is about working for her good. It’s choosing to orient your life in such a way as to prioritize her wants and needs over your own.





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