The 2 Common Spots Women Want Males to take the Lead In 2024

 My wife loves being out in the wilderness. Before we were married, we took a group of teenagers on a week-long backpacking, hiking, and camping trip. As a former trail guide in Colorado, she initiated doing the trip and recruited one of her guide friends to help lead it with her. I have never been much of an outdoorsman. The farthest out into the wilderness I normally go is the 15th hole on a golf course. I assumed they had everything covered so I passively followed. Not once did I offer help, and I’ll admit that there were times when I had a less than positive attitude.

When we came off of the trail, I could see she was a little upset. My occasional bad attitude was reason enough, but the thing that really got to her was that I took no initiative to help lead. It was all on her, and that made her feel alone. Meanwhile, at the time, I thought everything was fine. This was partly a communication problem, but I have noticed that our relationship experiences difficulty when I lack initiative. When I sit passively rather than taking the lead or coming alongside my wife, both of us end up frustrated. Here are 5 common areas where women are looking for men to take initiative.

“Women want men to set a standard and direction for the family. "Women want men to set a standard and direction for the family. They desire us to point our families to a higher moral character. This is not to say they want everything dictated to them. They are as much a part of determining the values of the family as us. However, they want us to carry the weight by living it out consistently, communicating it effectively, and reinforcing it.

1. Attention

 They want full engagement and focus in conversation with both them and the kids. If you are like me, it’s easy after a long day to want to check out. I have to remind myself, sometimes daily, that my family deserves.

2. Planning

 If there was ever a place where my wife and I were opposites, it’s this one. It’s tough enough for me to figure out what to do today, let alone think ahead. My wife, meanwhile, already has our daughter’s birthday planned . . . in 2019 (Not really, but kind of). Whether you are a planner or not, they want our engagement here: vacations, date nights, family outings, meal plans, etc. It makes them feel cared for when we think things through with them and help them plan. They feel even more cared for when we bring it up before they do. When we leave them alone to plan, they feel alone. That’s the last thing they want.


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